07-19-2006, 02:09 AM
DU kills..................................personality, all that we "expected" or planned for and from life. It trickles to our Children scars placed on them for life, as a Partner of a DU toxic person I am marked for life from this event. I saw the man I married disappear - worst of all he saw himself disappear. I wonder what is worse, the loss we had of a Friend, Husband and Father or the loss he experienced of himself - imagaine - lost to yourself? Hard to handle.
I saw violence come into our lives - from change in Terry - I saw things that never would happen become normal - mood swings rages..........
Terry was in Depends, eating baby food and 50 assorted prescription medications plus morphine, wheelchair, walker......................I lost Terry many years before he died. I learned to fake him out when he wanted to die, fake medication - so he thought he had an over dose, life became a struggle taken for 15 minute time spans - all I could cope with.
Rape is a violation - Canada allowed this entire Family to be emotionally and financially raped - not caring for the Military Member or his Family.
We believed in our Country, in our Military Family - we really did. That belief was torn from us through the years of illness, pain and destitution.
Terry was completely diabled in mind and body, I was a 24/7 caregiver - yes through choice but that is love, which does not help when you use Visa to pay Mastercard as there is no income! Not all medications were covered, so we paid out and paid out till, well even now I keep this house month to month and carry enough past debt that I will never see it taken care of in my life - it will go to my Children. Our Military Family is there for us (in what time zone??) VAC exists for us (if you can get through the minefield of paper!!!) but its a maze.
If anyone wants to chat about how to manage some mood swings and night terrors - post a message. We need help as Partners and our Children need assistance to. We are not alone, through it does appear that way - we are Collateral Damage and we need to speak out!!! I will not allow myself and my Children to be so dismissed!!!!!!
Terry can only speak for himself through science - but I guess no one is listening. I know The Conservate Defence Critic, now the MND is not talking to me, or at me
I have been trying for two years - I will keep trying.
I mention money as it is taken from us in many ways that people are not aware of - and having seen so many divorces and bankrupsys, its an area that needs to be addressed. I lost any chance of income for years, VAC took years to get and then most programmes were found by accident - SISIP came through but Long term Disability from ther is "Paid back in full" when VAC comes in and they (SISIP) demand you apply for CPPD - which lowers your DND Pension and gets you a demand repayment from DND, in our case $8,886. and change. If a cheque comes - lick it, feel it and sign it over - someone else demands it. Our Veterand and Family members are hurting - our Military Family is dysfunctional and dismissive!
I saw violence come into our lives - from change in Terry - I saw things that never would happen become normal - mood swings rages..........
Terry was in Depends, eating baby food and 50 assorted prescription medications plus morphine, wheelchair, walker......................I lost Terry many years before he died. I learned to fake him out when he wanted to die, fake medication - so he thought he had an over dose, life became a struggle taken for 15 minute time spans - all I could cope with.
Rape is a violation - Canada allowed this entire Family to be emotionally and financially raped - not caring for the Military Member or his Family.
We believed in our Country, in our Military Family - we really did. That belief was torn from us through the years of illness, pain and destitution.
Terry was completely diabled in mind and body, I was a 24/7 caregiver - yes through choice but that is love, which does not help when you use Visa to pay Mastercard as there is no income! Not all medications were covered, so we paid out and paid out till, well even now I keep this house month to month and carry enough past debt that I will never see it taken care of in my life - it will go to my Children. Our Military Family is there for us (in what time zone??) VAC exists for us (if you can get through the minefield of paper!!!) but its a maze.
If anyone wants to chat about how to manage some mood swings and night terrors - post a message. We need help as Partners and our Children need assistance to. We are not alone, through it does appear that way - we are Collateral Damage and we need to speak out!!! I will not allow myself and my Children to be so dismissed!!!!!!
Terry can only speak for himself through science - but I guess no one is listening. I know The Conservate Defence Critic, now the MND is not talking to me, or at me
I have been trying for two years - I will keep trying.I mention money as it is taken from us in many ways that people are not aware of - and having seen so many divorces and bankrupsys, its an area that needs to be addressed. I lost any chance of income for years, VAC took years to get and then most programmes were found by accident - SISIP came through but Long term Disability from ther is "Paid back in full" when VAC comes in and they (SISIP) demand you apply for CPPD - which lowers your DND Pension and gets you a demand repayment from DND, in our case $8,886. and change. If a cheque comes - lick it, feel it and sign it over - someone else demands it. Our Veterand and Family members are hurting - our Military Family is dysfunctional and dismissive!